Everyone
wants to be happy. As a child, my idea of happiness was to get to eat ice cream
every single day. In my teenage days, I was happy whenever I got more marks
than my friends. In college, I carved for attention of the “One”. As soon as I
started working, it was on getting more and more highly paid job.
Our
idea of being happy thus changes with time. I am now married, well settled in
Job, my “targets” for being happy include buying new house, jewellery or car or
getting a promotion. But are these ideas of happiness constant?
With
constant analysis, I found no, these so called Targets of happiness are very
short lived and variable. They are accomplished as soon as we get them. For example,
after owning a Flat, a new apartment won’t bring that much of joy or thrill
which I got while buying the first one. Thus these things don’t make us happy
every single day of our life. They merely add a feather to our life style or
simply make our life easier.
After
lots of observation I found that the best way to be always happy is to stop
searching for it, because our source of happiness lies within us. As “Beauty is
in eye of the beholder”, “Happiness is in the mind of the seeker”. Joy is not
the state of our Physical, monetary or material well being but it is actually a
state of our mental well being.
If
you look forward to a simple morning tea with the person you love, then it is
the real cause of your happiness, as your heart seeks for it. If you carve for watching a movie again and
again or playing a sport or developing a hobby, it is the source of your Joy. Planting
the flowers and watching them grow and survive, thrill me more than owning a
piece of jewellery, every single bloom, brings more smiles on my face than my every
ride on my new car (And I am not discrediting the memory of the First ride!!!).
Though
the idea of Joy, vary from person to person, most of the human beings are happier
in the basic things. People are happy when they meet friends and share Coke and
Pizza with them, rather than eating out alone. And these sources of happiness
are actually constant. They never deplete or the joy of having them never deplete.
They get converted into our most sacred memories, which we would like to
remember forever.
Thus
next time if we feel that we are somehow unhappy, let’s analyse the source of
happiness we are seeking. If it is actually short lived, then our regret for
not having them is actually foolish. And
if it is actually that joy which is within us, we should strive for it as it
will live with us forever.
- Bhavna
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